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One of my long term goals is to get married. I quote that because I am not hooked to the idea of a legal marriage or the ceremony itself. What I’d like to do is be in my old age and have been with the same person for decades. I look at my grandparents and think I want that.

I signed up earlier this week for a personals web site. I’ve had accounts on these things in the past, but I’ve used the free versions. Never with good results. I sprung for a paid version this time. That was a tough mental bump to get over. The mental logic is: I should be able to meet people on my own god given personality and ability. Paying for a personals site is giving up. It’s moral failure. That’s my instant reaction anyway.

The thing is: the dating pool in my social group is pretty small. If you don’t believe me, I have a diagram I can show you. I need to expand my possibilities. New groups of people. New activities. New sources.

Anyway, I’ve decided that I shouldn’t close off possibilities. So I sucked it up and pulled the debit card out of the wallet. Maybe it works. Maybe something else I do works.

Originally published at King Rat. You can comment here or there.


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assassinpandora From: assassinpandora Date: May 9th, 2009 07:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't think there is anything wrong with using the miracle of the internet to your advantage.
burgunder From: burgunder Date: May 10th, 2009 06:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
For real! Number of friends in Seattle I would've made without the internet: 2.

Jake, who I met at Amazon.
Emily, who I met at Sun Liquor.

The End. ;)

Everyone else is either someone who I met on the internet or someone I met through a friend that I met on the internet. All roads lead to Amber and/or SeaGoth.
From: gearwife Date: May 9th, 2009 10:59 pm (UTC) (Link)
Good for you. I hope it exposes you to new people. My cousin found his fiance in the same way. She is great. Good luck!:)
burgunder From: burgunder Date: May 10th, 2009 06:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
As I always have, I continue to wish that you will meet someone who makes sense for you, and who wears boots and likes pies. :>
sirensanssmile From: sirensanssmile Date: May 11th, 2009 01:28 am (UTC) (Link)
There is nothing wrong with meeting someone through the internet. I don't see it as giving up but rather an ambitious task. It is quite an endeavor using the internet to find someone. You have so many more 'losers' and 'weirdos' to sort through.
I have used a few dating sites but not seriously and that is how I met my recent ex of too many years. (Okay so my dating track record can't back up my argument but it isn't the internets fault I am retarded.)
I have met so many friends I have come to adore from the net and find it to be a perfectly reasonable way to meet new people for any sort of purpose.
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