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What's the difference between Thiscrush and Valentinr?

There should be a minimum 3 month break between these kinds of semi-anonymous-but-i-don't-really-want-them-to-be tell me you like me/would date me memes.
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burgunder From: burgunder Date: March 8th, 2007 01:40 am (UTC) (Link)
I hate these kinds of things.

I hate watching hopeful people with 0s.
I hate watching the hopeful people with 0s watch the self-confident, socially-ept people rack up the points.

So fucking stupid.

I don't get it.

It seems to me that telling people about a crush turns into the real deal - it's why it's called a crush. So why ask? Crushes are supposed to be fun, not black holes of woe.

It's one of those damn questions, like Do I look fat? where the asker is following some weird social meme and if someone actually answers honestly, the whole world falls apart.

gkr From: gkr Date: March 8th, 2007 01:45 am (UTC) (Link)
I also get the feeling that a fair number of folks are hoping that an unknown crush/valentine comes out of the woodwork. Having determined and rejected all previous known suitors, there's a hope that someone new comes out. Without, of course, risking anything themselves.
burgunder From: burgunder Date: March 8th, 2007 01:49 am (UTC) (Link)
It occurs to me that the countermeme to prove what risk-taking bad asses we are is to post our entire list of standing crushes so that all crushees could read them.

But, gotta say, I don't have an ounce of interest in doing it. If I did it, the caveats list would be five miles long and involve footnotes.

Like, Manda. I have a crush on Manda almost whenever we dance. It's like a thing that happens when we dance. But there's no intention attached to it. It's just a fun crushy feeling that happens because we have So Much Fun dancing together.
gkr From: gkr Date: March 8th, 2007 01:58 am (UTC) (Link)
I think I did do it way back when that secret crush thing went around a few years ago.
burgunder From: burgunder Date: March 8th, 2007 02:01 am (UTC) (Link)
Excellent, then you should get your Risk-Taking Bad Ass merit badge sewn on ASAP. ;>
gkr From: gkr Date: March 8th, 2007 02:02 am (UTC) (Link)
Found it.

I think I'll update it.
kalibra From: kalibra Date: March 9th, 2007 09:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm a little bugged when people that I know to be in supposedly happy healthy relationships are asking for crush validation still.

If you already have someone, then just focus on them and enjoy it. Prodding people to say they have crushes on you, and thus telling you (and probably your SO) that you might have other options, is a recipe for pain.
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