King Rat (gkr) wrote,
King Rat


So now I am thinking about the whole idea of little white lies. Telling small things about yourself to make yourself look marginally better, to get out of unpleasant situations, and sometimes just to fill in conversations. I do it sometimes. Not often, and I disappoint myself when I catch myself at it. These aren't unconscious acts, but they are performed without thought.

The other night, I caught Jessica making something up. Something real minor, and not about herself. It didn't really improve the story. All it did was fill in a little bit of time. And by the time she said it, I am sure she had convinced herself that someone had told her this.

What she said was, in the context of a conversation on Las Vegas weddings, was that they got rid of annulments last year. This isn't the case. Annulments are now a church thing. At one point, they might have had legal significance as well, indicating that the marriage never actually took place (for instance, because the marriage was never consummated). Anyway, I've told her before that it's been years since there's been any legal significance to annulments, and they were never as easy to get as a Las Vegas wedding is.

Doesn't make her a bad person. Cause I think almost all of us do this sort of thing. I caught myself doing it last weekend (and even made a super-private post about it).

<navel gazing>So I wonder if we can train ourselves to not do this? What is our motivation? Because I've caught myself doing this when it would make absolutely no difference at all. Is it ethical to use such filler if no one cares at all?</navel gazing>


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