From: wingedelf	Date: April 8th, 2005 03:27 pm (UTC)		(Link)

There is an element of truth, at least in its converse- it is rare to get out of a relationship more than you put into it.

As written, though, not always. It is possible to get far less out of a relationship than you invest in it. And sometimes, the return on investment is equal, but you fail to realize that until significantly after it has ended, when you realize that you learned something in the process.

From: unter_null	Date: April 8th, 2005 05:32 pm (UTC)		(Link)

I've not found this true a lot of the time, and most obviously with my most recent relationship... it was very one-sided. I gave and gave until I burnt out.

	From: thogs_travels	Date: April 8th, 2005 05:46 pm (UTC)		(Link)

Nonsense. What you put into it impacts what you get out of it, but the idea that "You get out of a relationship what you put in to it" ignores the fact that there is another person involved (unless we're talking about autoerotica).

So what you get out of it is the square of what you and the other person put into it, with a randomizer thrown in.

I think people like to hear that little ditty because they want to believe that they have control over what goes on in the relationship. You don't. Or more precisely, you have very limited control. That other person has a vote too, and when you try to mesh what you want with what they want it gets complicated.

	From: cynickal	Date: April 8th, 2005 06:03 pm (UTC)		(Link)

That explains why I got dick. :p

From: jakerain	Date: April 8th, 2005 07:06 pm (UTC)		(Link)

You -SHOULD- get out of a relationship what you put into it. But there are no certainties in life. Having an awareness to know when you're not getting out of a relationship what you're putting into it is knowing when to walk away.

	From: visioninblack	Date: April 8th, 2005 07:06 pm (UTC)		(Link)

One thing that is a peeve of mine... when I put a lot into a relationship and hardly get anything back. Is that time to leave?