A friend of mine pulled me aside Saturday night. He wanted to know why I was avoiding him and didn't want to talk with him. This is, of course, in his head. I've neither been avoiding him nor avoiding talking to him. Circumstances simply combined over the last few months so that we weren't ever really in the same place at the same time. Problem cleared up.
Thing is, even though he didn't say it, I know why he might think I was unhappy with him. It's not something we've really talked about, except in passing. This is what interests me about the whole conversation. That we both know what it is, without ever talking about it. And that we didn't need to talk about it.
Jason and I do that sometimes too. Something came up with the two of us a few months ago that affected someone else. It was brought to my attention. And I didn't even need to talk to Jason about it really. I said to him one day,
Hey Jason… and then looked to see if I had his attention. He turned to me and said,
Ok, I'll stop.
Just finding this phenomenon of the unsaid yet still known very intriguing at the moment.